You had been a challenge for her. You had a superior appeal and she was initially irresistibly attracted to you. Now she's gone and you are saying: "I want my ex back!"

I am preparing to make a wild guess here, but can it be that as time went on, you grew to become less and less of a challenge for her? And could it be that currently, you're absolutely no challenge for her? Not to mention that she knows if she wanted to, at any time she could get you back again and twisted around her finger simply by saying the word?

Now I'm going to be crude here, but as you may already know, to become a challenge once more you have to show to your ex that her sexuality does not have any influence over you any longer. Contemplate what it's like when you are stalking her with not returned phone calls, voice mails, text messages, and emails. And then think about what it is like when you continue doing it (as a lot of guys do) even after she's told you to stop. You're implying to the woman that you're a low-value guy with no other dating alternatives.

She won't respect you again until you refuse her lovemaking power over you. Luckily you are doing that now by not specifically communicating with her. The last thing she needs to hear from you now is how much "I want my ex back", so stay away from her.

Be sure to stay 100% strict with your communication cut-off. Do not be "friends" with her, because that rewards her with the continued validation of power over you while supplying her a convenient reason to stay split up. (Your lover reasons that she is letting you down easy that way, assuaging any remorse she may feel.)

Then again, you should definitely keep her locked in with your stuff. In all likelihood a lot of your possessions are at her residence, and vice versa. She may also owe you money as well. She may request a mutual friend of yours to ask you if you would like all of it returned.

The best response to this is definitely "No, not yet. The justification is because her possessing your things (and you holding onto hers) is still locking you two in and ensuring future communication. You do NOT want to give her the psychological closure that would come from settling your accounts.

For the next three weeks, you have to totally recognize -- and embrace -- the undeniable fact that you are an independent person now. Take what transpired with your ex and learn from it. You have a wonderful opportunity to revolutionize your life which will eventually allow you to get your exgirlfriend back.